Listen in

TWO FRIENDS WERE WALKING down a busy street one evening when one paused and said, “Listen to those crickets chirping.””What crickets?” said the other person. “I don’t hear any crickets. Hey, you!” He waved down a woman passing by. “Do you hear crickets around here?””No,” the woman said, and went on her way.The first man closed his eyes for a moment, then walked to a mailbox on a nearby lawn, reached down, and picked a cricket up from the grass.”That’s amazing!” said his friend. “How did you hear that?””Watch,” the first man said.He dug into his pocket for a handful of change and tossed some coins onto the sidewalk. Immediately, the door of a house opened, a car stopped and two passersby stopped to look for the coins.The first man shrugged. “It all depends on what you’re listening for.”We are born with two ears, but only one mouth. Some people say that’s because we should spend twice as much time listening as talking. Others claim it’s because listening is twice as difficult as talking.Whatever the reason, developing good listening skills is critical to success. There is a difference between hearing and listening. Pay attention! Your next job/account/paycheck may depend on it.These statistics, which I’ve gathered over the years from sources including the International Listening Association website, really drive home the importance of listening. At the same time, they demonstrate how difficult listening can be:n Eighty-five percent of our learning is derived from listening.n Listeners are distracted, forgetful and preoccupied 75 percent of the time.n Most listeners recall only 50 percent of what they have heard immediately after hearing someone say it.n People listen up to 450 words per minute, but think at about 1,000 to 3,000 words per minute.Listening can be hard work, and some people are more challenging to listen to than others, but when you find yourself tuning out what someone is saying you should ask yourself why.If you want people to listen to what you’re saying, make sure they feel like you have listened to them. When we feel we are being listened to, it makes us feel like we are being taken seriously and what we say really matters. In his book, “The 8th Habit,” management guru Stephen Covey tells a true story about the importance of asking other people their opinions.Covey says J. W. “Bill” Marriott, executive chairman and chairman of the board of Marriott International, the world’s largest hotel chain, described to him “the biggest lesson I have learned through the years.”It is, said Marriott, “to listen to your people. I find that if you have senior managers who really gather their people around them, get their ideas and listen to their input … you make a lot better decisions.”Marriott said he learned this lesson from an encounter with President Dwight Eisenhower when Marriott was a young ensign in the Navy.”I … had been in the Navy for six months and had come home from the Supply Corps School for Christmas. U.S. Secretary of Agriculture Ezra Taft Benson came down to our farm with Gen. Eisenhower.”Marriott said it was extremely cold outside, but that his father had put up targets outside for shooting. He asked the president if he wanted to go outside and shoot or stay by the fire.”He just turned to me,” said Marriott, “and asked, ‘What do you think, ensign?’ “Marriott said he told the president it was too cold outside for shooting and to stay inside by the fire, which he did.Marriott said that lesson, asking and listening to someone else’s opinion, has stayed with him and has been a big asset in his business. nMackay’s Moral: It’s amazing what you’ll hear if you just listen.

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